How to create your own Silent Retreat

How to Create a Silent Retreat

The peak of summer is arriving, Solstice is on its way!

Right now something else is peaking in me. Anger…

It’s been about 3 months since I move out, separated from my husband.

It’s been about 6 months since going through a big shed and shift in relationships around me.

It’s been about 18 months since moving into a new home and having another child.

Right now, for some reason, I feel at the edge of the cliff again. The Fool’s journey. Do I leap or stay where I am?

I like the idea of the fool’s journey. It is the start after a graduation of a cycle of completion, and I am soooo ready to graduate from the last 2 years of my life.

I think this residual anger is taking a toll on my heart. I am ready to release it and make some big changes in my business and career, but those changes remain to be seen.

I am looking to surround myself with those who are grateful for yoga in their lives and for those who support that.

I am looking for support myself. I think in this living process, of the last 6 months especially, I have received support in so many ways and am learning from the holes in the support I did not receive. And I am ready to move on from that.

These holes are my own, so it is up to me to fill them. Right now, I am trying to fill them with love for my kids and family, resolving things in my marriage and committing myself to reaching out when I don’t feel supported, rather than festering over it.

I am told I am a giver, I am told I need to stop rescuing people, and now is the time to honor where I am.

I am ready to be rescued in some ways. It would be nice to be checked-in on, to have the knowledge that I crossed your mind today, that you were wondering if I was ok… this comes to mind right now. I think this is what I am so angry about… but then I realize EVERYONE has things going on, and move on from it.  It will be a part of my practice to reach out to someone every day, I hope, and just ask, “How are YOU doing?”.

Sometimes we take the breaks we need from things like social media, work, relationships, and regular tasks. It is healthy. It helps us redefine our routine and ourselves a bit.

So I say go for it. Take that much needed  break!

Those of you who can, do a day of silence. It is powerful!

If you have kids, a non-negotiable few hours can even help. UNPLUG. No media, no phone, computer, even fictional books. Journal, write, walk, breathe, stretch, relax, bathe, soften it all.

Most of the time, when you are quiet it might be for a couple of reasons — like self-protection or not wanting to burden other people with your stuff. During your Silent Retreat, make sure you take the time to really listen to the truth. Dig through that extra layer and I guarantee you will find the reason you are so upset isn’t really the reason you are upset.

This is why yoga is so powerful.

It helps us do the internal work so we don’t have to be so extroverted all the time and drowning in media and phones shouting at us all day long. I would rather have people do things out of good will for me and others, than feeling like it is expected.

So goodbye anger. You are no longer serving me. You have gotten me to pay attention to something deep, and to help me make the changes that will serve me.

As the sun rises and sets on the longest day of the year this Sunday, I am ready to decrease my anger and embody focus and healing on a deep solar and lunar level. I truly want to be the change I wish to see in the world. I pray for peace within me and to be surrounded by those with the same vision. I wish those who walk a different path would honor others’ paths, and to please go on their way so we may walk in light in our own way.  I am no longer slamming doors, but gently closing them so I may move on to another.

Jenn’s Silent Retreat Checklist

  • Pick a time that you know you will not be interrupted.
  • Let all your important people know you will be unplugging from life for however long you decide.
  • Have a journal close by.
  • For longer retreats, maybe an inspirational book or a book on meditation will be helpful. I love Meditation for the Love of It by Sally Kempton or Meditation for Your Life by Robert Butera
  • Turn off your phone. Do not keep the computer around at all, and try not to listen to music, as well. Try for complete silence. It will get easier as the day goes on.
  • You can color a mandala. They have adult coloring books which are powerful and mind-clearing
  • Practice simple breath awareness or simple mind-fullness meditation (see my meditations for ideas)
  • Simple yoga postures or Surya Namaskara with some relaxation poses.
  • Take a bath and set the scene — candles, salts, oils, aromatherapy — and JUST SOAK.
  • Wrap yourself up and go to bed early.
  • If you can get a nature or beach walk in sometime during your Silent Retreat day, DO IT!
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7 thoughts on “How to create your own Silent Retreat

  1. Jean

    Jen

    So sorry to learn of your recent upheavals. Just want to let you know you will be in my prayers. It is difficult to let go of anger, but you are so worth it. When anger moves out of the way, joy and peace and confidence and strength are able to fill that space.

    Peace!
    Jean

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  2. Carol

    We are hoping you know how many prayers are offered up for you and your delightful children that soon all will be as you need and wish for happiness. Love you , Carol and Bill

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  3. Barbara

    Sorry to learn of your recent drastic life changes. I really appreciate this post on a silent retreat. You are right we all have our personal struggles and we need to find a positive way for relief. Thank you for your plan for a silent retreat, I plan to create a retreat for myself. Maybe this will allow me to take a breath and learn to enjoy my life.

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    1. Jennifer Langsdale Post author

      Thank you for sharing! Since just writing that entry a couple of days ago, my relief is substantial, I keep on it and never shun it away to deal with later. Good luck and take as many breaths as you need Barbra!

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  4. Jeanie Bolton

    I have been where you are. I understand. I truly loved the man in my life for years. We had 2 wonderful sons. Then my world fell apart. I became extremely angry with his excessive drinking but I needed to protect my young sons and myself. My anger lasted a long, long time. I turned to Tai Chi for 6 years until my knee surgeries. Then I found yoga. I have learned to forgive myself and him. Along the way, I became a HF Reiki Master. Yoga and Reiki have become my path to sanity and a way to give back. A silent retreat is a wonderful way to recharge my batteries. Thank you for being a part of my life and my well being. With this, I send you strength and healing.

    Namaste,
    Jeanie

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