Category Archives: Self-Ritual

Happy New Year: Reflections & Intentions

Not to be a cliché, but yes, this past year did move fast. I have so much to be grateful for in 2017.  As the wheel turns to another New Year, acknowledge all that was, and move into this moment for all that is. 2017 was a good year for release and to live in fullness.  I found much to hope for within myself, my life and all around me in 2017, for that I am grateful.  

My new year suggestion for you is to pick a word to represent what it is you seek in your life to live in wholeness and happiness. Ask yourself, what do I need? What will sustain me? What will heal me? What do I need to learn? Go from there in truth, and see where it gets you!

Why one word?  I find this will help focus you and give meaning to the karma or action you seek in each year. I learn immensely from this practice, and explore deeply each new word I choose. I run it through my mind, I use it in intentions, I journal on it, meditate on it, and sometimes just let it simmer on a back burner and it finds me again and again…


May your word find you!

2017 Reflection

I enjoyed watching my children grow, my son turning from toddler to boy.  Watching them both become strong in body, and capable in mind. See them swim, jump, run, laugh and play, full of life and promise.I watched my business in its new location grow and thrive within a community of people who fully participate in what we hope our new space would do: heal, inspire and grow. Saw what the power of a team of like minded people can do when we stick to our goals and intentions.

At home, I grew my formal education in Aromatherapy Sciences. I paid attention to the environment more than ever to the point where I had sleepless nights over it all.  I worked to thrive my body, and finally after 4 years being post-natal, made a deep connection to what my body needed. I observed my relationship, felt it to my core, its weaknesses and strengths, and pray for healing and abundance in 2018.

I released many things about myself that no longer served me as I worked with my word of the year: GRACE.  That was no easy task.  I tried to be present, to honor others needs of me as well as set boundaries for my own. I watched my thoughts, heard my cycle that was ever present within me, and worked to resolve them.  I opened my heart, closed my heart, re-opened it again and worked my kindness and compassion like never before.  I still have plenty of room to grow, but I feel I put myself in a good space for that growth.

Sally Kempton wrote in her book Meditation for the Love of It “Grace is the energy that connects us to the ultimate truth, to the source of our being…grace is insides us, after all, never distant.” I remember reading that on New Year’s Day this year and feeling very overwhelmed at my choice of words for this year, but of course all the pieces fall into place when you trust in your guides.

2018 Intetion

I have many goals and lists to write, as usual for this time of year in my personal life practice. I like to get organized and excited over what is next, but more than ever, I choose to be present.  To hear the quietude of winter, to watch the snow, to see my children in front of me wishing to stop time so they can stay young and innocent forever, cherishing lasting moments in this time of my life.

In many ways, grace led me to a place of arrival.

This last month, I conjured my next word of the year through meditation and an open heart . I rolled many words into my mind, but as all sankalpas and intentions go, there is only one thing that is connecting them all, which is the source we seek when we do this work.   This year will be REBIRTH.  I sank into this word earlier this month when I saw myself in a vision breaking free of a beautiful golden egg, flying high, ethereal and beautiful in every aspect.  We know birth is no easy task for either party, but the end result is joyous and takes your breath away.

My mantra will be to feel. I pray for the 360-degree view, I don’t want to miss a thing, and then the focus be to what is important: family, relationships, home, community, happiness, mother earth, peace, love, kindness and connection. May you all rise above, may you all know you are loved, may you all know you have the support you need. See you in the new year.

With Grace and Anticipation,


Write your Lists to close out and begin again!  Here is my top 5 top focuses from 2017and 5 important seeking’s for this year:

2017 insight and accomplishments

1.       My education

2.       My relationship

3.       Physical fitness & health

4.       Environmental impact

5.       My inner self: grace, confidence, taking ownership

2018 action list

1.       Continue to reduce environmental impact: garden and permaculture moves

2.       Strengthen my meditation and mindfulness practices

3.       0 Debt

4.       Travel

5.       Living in my heart awareness


A Fire In Your Belly: A Mid-Winter Self-Ritual

Snow topped roofs… Quiet…subdued dark blue morning sky…

All is as it should be for February 1st.

Today and tomorrow mark special days on the old calendar called Imbolc or “in the belly”, symbolizing the mark of mid-winter. This morning, I rose early, and lit every candle I had left over that was started last year to cleanse out old fires. Each room has a cheerily flickering light as the sun is now rising.

Our ancestors would have fire as their main source of light, as they spent the long nights of winter in their small homes, huddled together to stay warm. On this morning, I am reminded of how fortunate we are to have space to move about in these cold months. I am not bothered by snow, I find it beautiful and calming.

This morning when I see those covered rooftops from my the window I practice in front of, it makes me feel uplifted to see such beauty. I turn a few oracle cards to begin my new month, what lies ahead I ask?

I begin my yoga practice with warming up with surya namaskara, and decide to focus on balance and hip release this morning. All it takes is 20 minutes for my body to feel its long night of rest melt away into softer muscles and a more relaxed mind.


I did notice my mind was a bit too busy this morning. It has been with January as busy as it was for myself. I run the checklist through my mind of the month: opening a new space two and a half times larger than my old studio, training  new desk staff, teaching many classes, hosting a large scale grand opening, a soft opening, and moving the old studio into the new studio all in the course of a month. Of course, taking care of family life, groceries, desk work, and so forth, no wonder my mind is a bit wreckless right now.

I decide I need to sit and ground.

I do what I do each Imbolc, a meditation focused on the them of the day, what is “in the belly” for me? It gives me a little insight into what I need to focus in on from now until the Spring Equinox, our next old calendar pivotal date.

With flickering candles, and Pandora radio playing soft ragas, I sit with my breath to see where my mind will take me.

One of the symbols of Imbolc is one of those big cast iron pots you see on Halloween (except they are usually plastic) called a cauldron. They have 3 legs and our ancestors used to cook with them over the fire. I see mine as a pot belly shape to go with our “in the belly” theme. I take a look inside and see it is half full with warm water. I fall in, the water is warm, and I am swimming. It feels good to swim in the warm darkness. I realize though, I cannot just stay here because it feels good. This is typical of me, forge ahead!

I notice the water changes, gets choppy and rough… hmmmm now what do I do?

I take the water, and turn it into a water spout funnel and toss it in the air. It disperses above me into beautiful sparkles like soft fireworks.

Ahhhh, now I am calmer, sitting down now in the bottom of my pot, deciding what is in the belly for me.

You see this in the belly theme is symbolic of this time of year. Spring is happening in the belly of the earth. The first stirrings are happening, but we cannot see them.

The rest of what happens is for me only, but I understand a little better where I may want to invest my time this month. I made sure I reviewed and closed out last month already mentally. My checklist of how I did. What goals did I reach or am on track with. I looked at my journal entries to make sure I am on top of my mental plans.

One of them is to write to you at the end of each month, so we can close our months out together. People who continuously check into their goals will achieve them.

My word of the year is Grace. I chose it because I don’t have a true energetic understanding of the word, but I think it will help me to understand it in my life, career and spiritual practice. It is still foreign to me, but I will continue to check into it to keep myself focused on this theme for 2017.

Today if you can, close out your month, and try a meditation to see what is in the belly for you. Here are some self-ritual ideas for today and tomorrow.

Mid-Winter Self Rituals


  • Finishing burning any old candles as a symbol of release of the first part of winter
  • Let your intention be surrounding this half of winter, from now until March 21st, and what is in store
  • Let your yoga  practice revolve around warming and belly nourishing practices like twists, surya namaskara, and deep forward bending
  • Enjoy being in the belly of your home, wherever that is, clean the space and enjoy being in it
  • Sit and visualize where your first stirrings of new intentions are at. I like my cauldron visualization, but you could also visualize a fire or hearth, a pot with soil in it, or even inside your own womb area.
  • Enjoy nourishing foods, like soups and stews made of root vegetables and easy to digest grains. Our bodies need simple foods that are easily broken down in our bellies.
  • Yoga postures in my practice today included: Classical Surya Namaskara, Pyramid Pose, Twisted Low Lunge, Tree Pose, Seated Wide Legged Forward Bend, Headstand and Plow Pose.

Enjoy closing out January and transition yourself into a beautiful February.

Finding Tranquility Everyday: Closing Out Your Journey

Do you remember why you began this journey with yourself?

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I know why I did. I wanted to feel happy everyday and more consciously aware of my life. It was important to me to set some goals and see them through. Being curious about myself again, and ground myself a little.

Thank you to those to read everyday and for your kind words, I have never done anything like this before, at times it felt vulnerable to have to share so much. It is nice to know you are not alone in what you feel.

As this cycle comes to a close, a new one will begin. I hope you will all continue on with the goals you set for yourselves that made you feel good. Release the things that do not. Love yourself everyday, you deserve that!

Suggestions for closing ritual


The full moon is tomorrow. I suggest an outdoor closing if you can, or somewhere where you can catch a glimpse of the moon.

  • Have a moment or a day of silence at some point to honor your final period of reflection
  • Have a little sacred body time with a juice cleanse or just eating very clean all day.
  • Do a longer yoga practice in the morning or before bed.
  • Take a nice bath with candles, bath salts, the works, before you close out your 30 days.
  • Close with another body blessing. 
  • Chant a mantra you feel connected to like the Gayatri Mantra, Om Mani Padme Hum or anything that opens the heart for healing. Sway, move and rejoice in the freedom of your own voice.
  • Review your journal entry’s and what you noticed or learned. Make one more entry to close out what you need, and to see what you will continue to work on going forward.
  • Pick an oracle card for a divine message connected to what is in this moment important for you to notice.
  • Sit peacefully as long as you like, until you feel complete.

If you feel you are at a crossroads, continue on. Take the path that is right for you, or meditate on the choices you have. We all have choices on how we choose to live our lives. I know what it is like to be the outsider in how I choose to live and I hope you get the love and acceptance you need. Take your time getting there, as progress may feel slow at times, but true change at the core will take time. Know you are being guided, and that you are never alone.

With love and gratitude to all of you.

Gayatri Mantra

Bhuh Bhuvah Svah
Tat Savitur Varenyam
Bhargo Devasya Dheemahi
Dhiyo Yo nah Prachodayat

“We meditate on the brilliance of our Supreme Being who is our creator, inspirer and source of eternal Joy.  May this warm and loving Light inspire and guide our mind and open our hearts.”



Finding Tranquility Everyday Day 28: Having Tranquil Fun

What is tranquil fun you ask?

I can tell you what it is to me. A hot day, a cold drink, and hanging out with people you fancy. Today, I got to do that 3 times over!

After all my hard work on myself these last 28 days, I have to say moving into the close of this journey, having fun really never crossed my mind. How silly is that? I thought about my intentions, my yoga practice, my spiritual practice, meditation, cleaning and organizing, gardening, cooking, but fun never once crossed my mind.

Fulfillment did cross my mind and all the many questions that go into that, but fun did not. I guess one more magical ingredient to add to all this. Good ole’ kick in the pants laughter and smiles. It is some of the best medicine for the soul.


When was the last time you had fun? Like a smile was glued to your face?

When was the last time to surrendered to a desire that would improve your life, not hinder it?

When did you take the option of releasing stress and to-do’s for something you really wanted to do?

Some of us are better at this than others. No matter what, it is OK, but don’t forget to make it a part of your bucket list like me. I really like having fun with my kids, and seeing them have fun, but as a parent, it is hard to relax into the fun when you have so much responsibility to take care of someone too.

So where is the tranquil fun?


For me, less responsibility in that moment, and more relaxation. Just being able to enjoy the moment, but knowing everyone else is too in their own way. Sharing moments with people I love and trust. Knowing I can be myself in those moments. Understanding I am safe and secure, and all is well.

I would say tranquil fun is being at ease with myself, and enjoying the moment, not wanting to be anywhere else.

Give yourself permission now to schedule something you know will be fun and laid back in these last four days. Close this out on a high note, and focus on your successes and happiness. I wish you all the happiness in the world and more!