Do you have those moments where you feel things are not as they seem? Well you are spot on because no matter what, that is usually the case in our everyday lives. Things are always going on behind the scenes in peoples’ lives, minds and hearts. But if we really knew the truth, what would change? Probably…everything?
That is why this year I dedicated my heart practice and living practice to LOVE. You see, when you love unconditionally, none of that matters. You can just say, “I don’t like that you did that to me, but I love you nonetheless”. Or to yourself, “I know you are hurting, but I love you nonetheless”.
Life is changing but love is this one steady thing I can count on to get me through.
With love, you become a more honest, grateful person when it is true love to the core of your being that you use as your fuel for living. I can say, “I love you…but”, and that will start to negate the love you feel. Try instead, “I give myself permission to feel confused or hurt. I will not attach it to anything so I can move on from it, then the love is still there in my heart and does not get lost”.
This practice is one leading into forgiveness, which leads into compassion, which leads into kindness, which leads into LOVE.
When we forgive we are compassionate to others’ needs, and kind in the situation at hand, while honoring ourselves. This creates love in the heart. So it is not to be a door mat. Would you call the Dali Lama a door mat? I think not. He is a brave and beautiful light in the world, but always with that smile, it seems, and always with that open door of wisdom to him. And he knows how to handle himself with politicians and war-minded people, much scarier people maybe than you or I are dealing with.
We know when people are angry or vengeful, the source is usually hurt in some way. So through love, kindness, forgiveness, it is up to them to decide to do the same. Instead of an eye for an eye, try a loving kindness meditation based on the Buddha’s wisdom of compassion and unconditional love to release your pain.
I have dedicated this month to Kuan Yin energy because I want to learn the deep lessons of love. When sitting for meditation, I held my hands in Padma Mudra, symbolic of the lotus of the heart, and mentally chanted Kuan Yin’s Mantra, Om Mani Padme Hum, Shanti, Shanti, Shanti. I immediately felt a sense of love and compassion in my heart, and a smile on my lips. It was in my heart I saw myself struggling to pull a gigantic root out (a.k.a. my ego) and I realized I was not trying to release this root compassionately, but diligently as I always do with hard labor and stress.
I immediately heard my message, “stop trying to rip something out and make use of it”. So I decided to energetically rototill it instead. With this non-motorized tilling device in mind, I ground that root to pieces and started to fertilize it into the earth in my mind to give back those thoughts, emotions, and traumas that no longer serve me. I felt a loving release, and I know I may have to re-till the earth again more than once to get this right. But knowing I have a technique to do this now is all I needed to get the process going. I will keep going back to this to help myself process my pain and my attachments.
So what is my conclusion for all of this? I say trust your gut feeling first. When you feel you cannot trust yourself or someone else in any situation follow that and ask the heart “why”, as the heart and the mind are both very knowledgeable. Then assess what you come up with, or meditate as I did to reset the mind clutter, and see your truth.
“I know I can change, I know I can be the best human being possible, and with each breath I hope to send myself in that direction this year, with loving kindness”.
Kuan Yin Meditation
Here is the mudra. Use it while seated comfortably. Dim the lights, put some white noise on if you need too, and maybe add a little aromatherapy to help you relax. Do your breathing as I have offered you before, and try to unplug with this mudra for several minutes. You can listen to the short meditation below to guide you along.
Bonus: Shoulder & Heart Opening Practice
Yoga poses for compassion and heart opening are pictured here for added heart opening! Play the track below for instruction. If you just want to use the pictures, try each one for 5-8 breaths.
- Simple shoulder opening cycle (3 parts)
- Shoulder opener with the strap
- Yin inspired seal pose
- Child’s pose
- Lying on your back with a rolled blanket
With love to you!