Finding Tranquility Everyday Days 26&27: Tranquil Magic

Magic…Mystical…Mysterious…

Some words are so delicious to say. This is right where I needed to be this month, enjoying some time that started with those words.

I took a day off from writing, but not from our sadhana. I needed the extra time to rest and prepare for one of the most magical days of the year for me. August is one of my favorite months. The harvest season is here, the grapes hanging heavy on their vines, the drone of the night insects. I love it all!

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I love how hot is has been. Not everyone is a fan, but to really feel my bare feet, to not feel cold at all, to be able to go outside whenever I want is a luxury to me. Exploring myself this last month has left me hungry for seeking more within me. I have been noticing my behavioral patterns, and also noticing where I can stand to take some power back.

Yesterday, I prepared for my special day with a close friend, by baking blackberry oat bread to honor the harvest time, studying what we were going to explore within us, lighting a ton of candles, sipping red wine (yes one glass, and guess who got major sinus drainage from it…yours truly), and doing a seated meditation to receive messages for seeking clarity in our lives.

Here were some powerful messages I received.

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  1. Red Wine makes me sneeze and my body was not happy to have it.
  2. I absolutely must continue to work my inner magic to find tranquility.
  3. I really need to do my yoga stretches everyday for my body to heal and maintain health.
  4. In my meditation, I saw a ship with a dragon head. I realized it was the same image I saw on an oracle card. When I looked up the meaning I saw voyage but also bringing it all home. What I have put out there is about to return to me from its celestial journey.
  5. I saw a waxing moon. That is the phase of growth and bringing intentions into the light.

Other things happened too, but those I will keep to myself, a girl needs a little mystery.

People have asked me how my cleanse/sadhana has been going. Here is what has gone well: no sugar, not one slip! No wine for the most part, not bad at all! Writing everyday for this journey! Way less gluten. Keeping my intentions close to my heart and at the foreground of my thought patterns. Being able to look in the mirror now with love for myself. Working really hard to clean up bad habits.

What I have not done that I had hoped to do: Get the daily exercise routine and a longer yoga routine down. I move a lot, I run around all day with the kids, at the studio, cleaning the house, shopping and so forth, but I cannot seem to find the right blend of movement practice for me yet. That is next, because it is important to me that I stay strong my whole life. I also have some heart chakra clean up to do.

We have 4 days left on this cycle we began on.

Take a moment to do a quick reflection on your accomplishments and what you want to continue to work on for yourself. I can’t wait to chip away at my vision board list! I hope to chip at something everyday!

Work on your closing practices too for Full Moon this week. You will want to close out your sadhana, so make sure you mark down your calendar for that this week, and your how to close out your sadhana post will come in the next day or so. There are so many creative ways to close this out, make it your own. Find the magic within you that wants to speak up and be heard and listen to it!

 

Finding Tranquility Everyday Day 25: Opening Yourself to the Elements

A large tranquil factor in my teaching and spiritual practices is working with the elements. The elements, meaning earth, air, fire and water, are a way in to finding the way we need to move and manifest in our lives.

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Are you inspired by a certain element in your life? I bet you are. Look around your home. Do you see seashells scattered about? Maybe potted herbs, stones or crystals? Butterflies and Dragonflies? Do you love the desert, sand, sun, heat and vast sky? Do you have a candle in every color and scent?

What do the elements do for me?

The Elements have a way of organizing us energetically. If we are really strongly connected to one element, it probably means we don’t dip into the celestial bucket of another very often. That can lead to a leak somewhere within us or a block, and we know we need to get connected.

There are elements in our bodies and everything around us. Most of us are attracted to one or two specific elements, and find it easy to connect to them. My two are earth and water in my home. I work with all the elements in my practices of cooking and spiritual connection. See which elements you connect to the most.

The Elements

Air

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Air as a sensory experience, can be translated as the wind on your skin, the rise of smoke from a fire or incense or a bird flying in the skin, wings spread. It is said to be the connector of intellect and thoughts. Musical notes from a piano, flute or stringed instruments. The grace of a ballerina. The language of the heart and the air we breath.

Air can be found in the symbol of animals of flight, feathers, incense, wind, direction of east, music, butterflies, dragonflies, and the colors white, yellow, lavender and pale blue. We work the air element to connect to the imagination, intellect, inspiration, and communication. If you are an Aquarius, Gemini, or Libra you are ruled by the element of air. Spring is the season of Air. Goddess inspiration would be Saraswati, Isis, and Freya.

Earth

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Earth is our grounding force. It is our roots, heritage, tribe, and immovable strength. The earth is our cookery skills, our ability to grow things from soil and seed, our natural connection to nature and her beasts. It is the harvest, birth, bounty, abundance, and sacred ceremony of creation. The earth can be rich dark brown or gray for rock and deep earth, or the green we see on the surface. It is the mountains, hills, prairies and fields.

Earth can be found in the symbolism of trees, ground, food, pawed and hoofed creatures, the direction north, the colors green, brown, black, deep purple and maroons, and the season of winter. We find earth connected to our ability to manifest abundance, fertile soils for inner and outer growth, and mother earth connection. Herbal work and healing is a big part of the earth element practices. If you are a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn you are ruled by the earth element. Goddesses like Lakshmi, Gaia, and Demeter are inspired in this element.

Water

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Water is our flowing and emotional force. We can flow through riptides, torrential rain, ocean waves, seasides, and winding rivers within ourselves. Water is our sensual element, invoking a Venus like quality to our passions. It is our ability to ebb and flow in our lives and to connect to our lunar rhythm. Water carries our cleansing intentions through.

We find water in our dreams, emotions, and thirst for life. We connect with water through sea creatures, swimming, bathing, the direction of West, blues, sea greens, and crystaline colors. Symbols like roses, pearls, mermaids, shells, and the lotus flower are connected to water. If you are a Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces you are ruled by the water element. The goddesses we connect to here may include Aphrodite, Yemanja, and Amphitrite.

Fire

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Fire invokes passion, energy, and igniting force in our lives. It creates a space for warmth, passion, and determination. It has the strength to wipe out earth in brute force and create change weather we like it or not. It is transformation, willpower and fickle if untamed. Fire needs the other elements to exsist, which is interesting. It needs air to survive, and earth to give it is burning mechanism. We use water to put it out, and cool ourselves down. You see it everyday in the warmth and power of the sun, and its ability to sustain our lives. It is ENERGY. It is the ability to manifest quickly.

You can connect to fire with candle lighting and solar connection. Animals like snakes, salamanders, lions, and clawed animals and reptiles. The element of south and living in that direction where the suns heat is most intense. The colors red, orange, yellow, and gold inspire the fire energy in us. If you are a Leo, Saggitaruis, or Aries, you are ruled by the element of Fire. Goddesses like Durga, Hestia, Brigit, and Pele help connect us to the fire element.

The Tranquil Elemental Connection

We can find peace and tranquility when we go with our natural force within us. Artists need to paint and create to find happiness. Cooks need to feel the power of that life force energy in their food. Musicians need to play to feel inspired. We all need that connection. What is your connection? Where would you say you would want to spend your time in nature the most? What yoga poses do you like the most? Take a moment to connect to the source within you!

Best Yoga Poses for the Elements

Earth: Seated Forward Bends and Supine Asanas

Fire: Core working asanas, arm balancing and Surya Namaskara

Water: Chandra Namaskara and Deep Hip Opening

Air: Balancing Asanas and Heart Opening Asanas

Finding Tranquility Everyday Day 24: The Tranquil Timetable

Today, I would like to add to my tranquil vision board, a way of seeing how I am spending my time. It is silly really that most of us need to do this. Our days are so busy with all of our duties that it is important to build the self-awareness of where we spend our time. It is important to set the intention on how we WANT to spend our time, and where we can make space to be more efficient with the other stuff.

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Taking your time travel power back.

Every year I get this really cool planner from Leonie Dawson where she has us do this, and I really enjoy taking a moment to see what I am doing with myself. Since I have really young children, the last few years has been remarkable on how my timetable changes. When we are caregivers, business owners, take on more education, get a pet, our devotion to self care really goes down.

These last 24 days is to show us we can have self-devotion and care with the pockets of time we have dealt to us. So, if you want to do 2 charts or 4 charts, enjoy this little self-awareness exercise and get as creative as you want. Make it up in an excel spreadsheet or get your color pencils out, whatever works for you.

Making your charts

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  1. First, draw 2 big circles for your first set of pie charts.
  2. The first circle will be divided on how your spend your time in general, so you will see things like work, family, childcare, intimate relationship, creativity stuff, exercise, yoga, self-care, meditation, cooking, learning, cleaning, shopping, gardening, writing, fixing things, reading, social media, TV and so forth.  This is your own thing, make it tailored to you, and make buckets that make sense.
  3. Take a breath, look at your first chart and start to vision where you want to adjust your time.
  4. Then start on your next chart which will be your wishlist chart. How you really want to spend your time. You can make this a realistic attempt or a chart full of intention.
  5. Print them and put them on your vision board.
  6. If you like, repeat this but for a daily time table on how you spend your time from the time you wake till the time you go to bed, so for example: 5:30 am rise, morning wake up routine; 6:00 am morning meditation and movement; 6:30 am hot water and lemon, writing; 7:30 am start kitchen chores, laundry, and kids wake up and flow from there just dividing up your day. Account for travel time.
  7. Make your second chart on how your would prefer your normal workday to go, and maybe a chart for weekend time.

PS: You can get crazy and make one for each day of the week if you have a crazy schedule like mine. That seems like a lot of work, so I just made one big one and made a misc time box for taking care of kids, household stuff, and business stuff, since I just go with the flow on how that gets done most days. You can make one to see where your finances are going too and your dream table for that!

Finding Tranquility Everyday Day 23: The Tranquil Relationship

This is probably the toughest thing to approach in finding tranquility, because it includes other people. I find myself exhausted a lot at the end of a day, usually satisfied, but exhausted. There is a lot of doing going on, and not a lot of being on some days.

When you are playing the role you play to others, you are in other relationships all the time. People expect a lot from you, but sometimes are not always clear on what they want. In the end you let them down sometimes, and you might wonder why.

My kids do a great job at telling me how I let them down, or what upset them. We do a good job of letting them know they have a right to feel what they feel. Customers usually will let you know when they are satisfied or unsatisfied. I do a good job at letting them know I take all of that seriously. Where it gets complicated is with family and partners for must of us.

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Speak your truth.

I come from a family where it was better to not tell people what you felt, you did not want to offend someone, even if they were in the wrong. I was a poor communicator of emotions from the beginning, I had two volumes, happy/satisfied, or angry/unsatisfied. I learned stonewalling from my family. You could always talk to Mom of course, she is the one who listens, but getting the message to the person who hurt you, and you were usually met with anger or dismay.

Today, I try to tell most people how I feel. With certain relationships, I am met with challenge, usually that I have no right to feel what I feel. I find that I have to let those kind of people say what they need to say first, sort of the dumping ground so they can release, then I have to be submissive to it and pretend that it is all ok just so we can move on. I do not do well that that.

It is hard to be so unheard all the time. It is tiring initiating all the guts in a relationship all the time. You have to be the planner, the communicator, the nurturer, the initiator and of course know your role of expectation well. Sounds a bit one sided to me.

Relationship Wish-List

When you are busy with all your other roles, it is hard to keep up with the ones where people expect the most out of you. Here is what I know about myself and my relationship wish list for all of my important relationships.

I don’t want to hurt anymore.

I don’t want to be the one who hurts someone else.

I want to be accepted for who I am.

I don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work, making the phone calls, setting up plans, and creating the space for intimacy.

I want to be submissive, but also want that from my other relationships too, I cannot always be the one who bends.

I do want to feel special, and loved.

I do not want to be the one who surrenders all the time.

I do want to feel heard.

I do want to feel like I matter, in a sincere way.

I don’t want to be the one who always has to figure the other person out, I want it to be an equal effort.

 

Bend in the Wind

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I have these really cool shells I got from North Carolina with pictures drawn on them of seaside symbols. One of them is of beach grass, and the symbol is about bending in all kinds of wind. Be the one who bends. I use that image a lot in my relationships. I know I bend a lot. It feels good sometimes to have that flexibility.  It is hard to be in relationships with others who do not bend and always get to play the role of the wind.

Let today be a day of relationship awareness for you. Make your wish-list and then write about what you could do better for your relationships with family and/or partners. Write about what you are still healing from and what is preventing you from healing.

I wish you all find that tranquil space in your heart to know that you are loved, accepted and compassionate. It all begins at the source with ourselves. If we all had those three things, we would be good to one another.

I found this really nice and well written blog this morning too if you want to check out more useful information on this topic.